Love is an Ordeal to Practitioners

Venerable Ananda, the foremost in learning (among the Buddha's ten great disciples) was confronted with lust from Matanga. Countering her love maniac towards Ananda, Matanga, who was an untouchable in the lowest class (people of a lower social status than common people), managed to transform the five poisons, namely attachment, aversion, ignorance, doubt and pride into wisdom and attained Arhatship (becoming an Arhat who has far advanced along the path of Enlightenment, but may not have reached full Buddhahood). The Buddha told her that she should follow Ananda to listen to dharma as well as trying to reach an understanding of dhyana (Zen meditation) since she loved His disciple. As a result, she perceived through meditation the suffering of being apart from the loved ones in life and was able to realize earlier than Ananda to attain Arhatship.

If Sunanda, the half younger brother (an agnate sibling) of the Buddha, had not had a beautiful wife called Janapadakalyani, he would not have possessed the motive power to attain Liberation. There will not be any wisdom (generated) if there is no desire.

Venerable Mahakasyapa, who was the foremost in ascetic practices, had to face the giving up of the deep love between him and the Golden Lady with whom they had a predestinated fate for 91 kalpas.
Note: using the minimum antara-kalpa to calculate the number of years in 91 kalpas,
	91 x 16,800,000 years = 1,528,800,000 years,
		i.e. fifteen billion twenty-eight million eight hundred thousand  years ago

As soon as the cupidity and lust of the three of them had been broken off, they all gained unrestrained freedom. Moreover, they knew clearly and distinctly what their unrestrained freedom was. Worldly people always covet all sorts of love and affections. Matters that look happy and joyful at the moment will be vanished in an instant when impermanence arrives; hence, when one indulges in it, one will merely allow oneself to revolve in the sufferings until one is inextricably bogged down in. If the desire and obsession of seeking outward can be abandoned while one’s frenzied as well as misleading mind can be stopped and one is abided by the right mindfulness instead, one’s own nature will possess immeasurable dharma joy as well as the bliss of dhyana and one is immediately liberated and (is situated) in the pure land!